Pamelah Stevens

My mother died of breast cancer, 4 years ago, so I tried to avoid all things related to it. But naturally it haunted me. A few months ago a client started talking about her genetic disposition [...]

I have been very hesitant to know what to say or write to people who come to me for guidance, stress relief, wisdom, and to vent. How can I sum up how I feel about the election outcomes, and [...]

If you really – I mean really! – want a peaceful, loving, joyful and happy relationship as a couple, if you want to learn how to stop arguing for good, then the first step is to admit this desire [...]

Balance-my favorite word. A wish I hear others echo, a desire we can realize. Come look and step outside the box with me. I’ve seen its success, over and over again. #balance Finding [...]

Women who have had some serious trauma in their past come to me tired of feeling like the victim.  They don’t know whether to forgive, how to move forward, which way to begin again. Below [...]

I am one of those individuals that likes to write out “to do” lists for myself to keep organized, prioritized, and accountable. Many psychologists strongly believe that people are more likely to [...]

In my experience with couples and my own past relationships-after years of not nurturing a relationship, discussions can quickly turn towards blaming, insulting, and shouting “you [...]

We all go into fledgling relationships with high hopes, one of which is that, as the connection matures, so too will our sense of closeness. When we commit to another person, our hopes stay the [...]

I grew up with my identical twin, who was an incredibly loving brother. Now, one thing about being a twin is that it makes you an expert at spotting favoritism. If his cookie was even slightly [...]

Recently I asked a bunch of my friends and colleagues to complete a short survey about their experience within a couple-ship, past or present. I’ve also been Counseling/Coaching couples for [...]